A lot of men have a real mental barrier about having to “pay for it.” This is an artificial barrier because there’s nothing wrong with paying for sex — and there are a lot of advantages to doing so. Paying for it doesn’t make you any less of a man. In fact, if you’ve never tried escorts before, you’ll find that the experience is probably different than what you’ve been led to think it is. And when you realize how it really works, you’ll look at it in a very different light.
Free sex isn’t really free. In order to get a woman to have free sex with you, you have to find someone who is attracted to you and wants to have sex with you. For most of us, this takes a lot of work.
If you go after a one night stand, then you’re having sex with a stranger, just as you would with an escort. The woman you pick up for a one night stand is not really fucking you. She’s just horny and you’re just a penis provider. If you want to keep fucking her, then you’re going to have to develop some kind of relationship with her.
If you start a relationship, you run into one of the biggest problems with free sex: You both have to want it at the same time. You can’t just get it when you want it. And then you have to deal with “where is this relationship going,” and how you feel about monogamy and marriage (Which I call “doing the “M” word”). Then there’s the question of dealing with her friends, her family, her lawyer, her religion, her spending habits, her television preferences, her moods, her shrink, her astrologer, her dealing with your friends and family, and trying to adjust to each other’s grooming habits, musical tastes, money, property, children, pets, ex-lovers, jealousy, anger, bullshit … all this when all you really wanted was just to get laid.
Escorts are helpful in recovering after divorce or other form of personal emotional loss. You can tell escorts personal secrets that you’d never tell your closest friends.
Maybe your looking for a permanent relationship. You’re lonely as hell and you want that special someone to settle down with so you can have kids and live happily ever after. The problem is that you haven’t gotten laid in so long that when you go out on a date you can’t control yourself and you come on too quick. This messes things up and you get rejected and you’re just that much more love-starved and depressed the next time. An escort can help break the cycle of rejection. You get laid a few times, feel better about yourself, and when you go out on a date you don’t feel you have to get laid. You can take the time to let the relationship develop and have a better chance of finding “true love” than if you weren’t seeing and escort. And you may have learned a few tricks in the mean time that make you a better lover and contribute to the relationship.
When you’re with an escort, you’re going to get laid. You don’t have to worry about “if” because that’s not an issue anymore. You don’t have to deal with all the other bullshit because that’s not part of the package. And being with an escort doesn’t mean that you have to give up free sex or pursuing a relationship. In fact, being with an escort may enhance your life so much that you get more free sex, have better sex, and are so attractive to women that you will find your one true love, if that’s what you’re looking for.
Many escorts have learned and can teach you advanced sexual techniques. They are open to answering questions about women that most people won’t discuss. Escorts can help you sharpen your sexual skills.
Once you get over the “paying for it” barrier, you’ll realize that it’s really a bargain. What you get is good sex with a woman who generally is a lot better at it than the average “civilian” woman, without the cost and complications of free sex. These women have been with a lot of men and they know things about sex that you can learn. If you talk to most pros, they’ll tell you that the average guy doesn’t have a clue about what women want. And if you’re willing to put some ego aside and learn, these women can teach you things that will impress the hell out of civilian women. So being with an escort is a great opportunity to sharpen your style.
Maybe you just got divorced or dumped and you’re hurting and need someone to be with. Being with an escort is a great way to recover from a lost relationship. No, it isn’t the same as “true love,” but it can make you feel a lot better about yourself and help build back your confidence so that you’re functional and attractive to women again. Women like men who are confident and they are repulsed by men who are sexually needy. That’s why when you need to get laid the most, women don’t want to be with you. And that’s where escort services play an important role in society. They help men who need to get laid, get laid. And these men are far better for it.
I don’t know if my therapist really likes me of if he’s just pretending to like me because I’m giving him money.
Convenience is another big advantage with escorts. When I want to get laid, I want it now. With escorts I can make a phone call and be having sex in about an hour with my choice from a variety of different women. I can actually pick a woman who suits my mood. You can’t do that in a relationship.
There are a lot of men who have been through the divorce courts who still want to have sex without giving everything they own to lawyers. Escorts offer a lawyer free alternative to a traditional relationship.
Let me explain about “variety.” This isn’t just a matter of what the women look like. It’s about personality and style. Sometimes I choose an escort who will give me slow, romantic sex with plenty of kissing, sweet talk, and affection. But sometimes I like hot, erotic, animal instinct sex and another escort is better at that. Sometimes I’m in the mood for someone who is just pretty. Sometimes I want good conversation and sometimes I want no conversation. Different women for different moods — and escorts provide this option.
To have sex when you want it, with whom you want it, and where you want it is well worth paying for. It’s just like ordering pizza delivered. You’re paying extra for convenience and service.
Exactly What is an Escort Service?
Movies and television depict prostitutes in a few limited and unrealistic ways, mostly to the detriment of the women. There’s the drug-addicted street walker standing on a dark and dangerous corner with a black pimp who beats her hiding in the shadows. Then there’s the whore who inhabits a giant Victorian brothel where a guy plays piano in the parlor and the women are slaves to an obese madame and secretly hate their work and their customers. In all the television I’ve watched, the only TV show that seemed to come closest to accurately depicting the relationship between and escort and her client was the TV series DALLAS where J.R. Ewing had this ongoing relationship with a woman named “Sabrina” that came in and out of his life over the years the show was on the air.
Escorts are women just like any other woman. The nicer you are to them, the better time you both have. Escorts give men the opportunity to practice and become a better partner for when the “right one” comes along.
Negative stereotyped situations may exist, but they are not the whole picture. In an attempt to foster a false sense of “drama,” the entertainment and news media almost never give a positive slant to prostitution, and for some reason, they rarely present any images at all of escort services. One reason for this may be that there is very little “drama” in an escort service. It’s simply a business.
Using an escort service means that you are dealing with an agency, just like any other service agency. You don’t pick up a street walker and you don’t go to a whore house. Instead, you call and arrange for companionship, and a woman comes to your home or motel room and spends time with you in your space. You get the advantage of not having to go anywhere and of being in your own home where you’re most comfortable — or in your motel room if you are on a business trip or you’re married and can’t do it in the home. It’s that simple.
These days there are a lot of independent escorts who work for themselves and advertise on the web. Some of them have there own web sites. We keep a list of some here on our site and there are plenty of others if you search google. And there are escorts that advertise in personal ads on personal ad sites. Generally they will advertise on adult person ad sites like myRedBook where they word the ad in a way that if you pay attention – they are looking for a paid relationship. I tend to recommend the larger adult matchmaking sites like myRedBook because the more women on the site the more you’ll have to choose from in your area.
Escort Services vs. Online Escorts
Which is better – escort service or online escorts. Well – that depends on where you live. In the bigger cities many local escort agencies have web sites so the you can see the escorts and read a little about them. The more you know the better. If you call them on the phone then you’ll just get a vauge discription. But – if you live in a small town you might not have a lot of choice. Online has the advantage of “cutting out the middleman” and deal directly with the escort. And – an online escort at least has some computer skills which is somewhat of an IQ prequalifier. And – you can intereact with her to determine who is right for you.
On the other hand – many escort services has a long track record and a steady clientel and prescreen quality escorts. In this kind of situation – trust and reliability are important. Someone with a phone number in the Yellow Pages might be less likely to scam you than someone without a permantent presence. So it really depends on your location and your needs. But the shift towards online grows every year as more and more women get into this on a recreational basis.
I’ve written my Shy Girl’s Guide to Becoming a Whore targeted at women who are not looking to be a full time escort – but are looking for an escort experience. Many women look up to hookers as sexual role models and it has become somewhat of a goal for ordinary women to fulfill their “Whore” fantasy and experience what its like to do it themselves.
Women who often have self esteam issues and low self confidence about their atractiveness to men can get a lot of reassurance about themselves when a man is willing to pay them for sex. And what kind of man do these women want to get together with to fulfill this sexual desire? Guys just like you – who are reading this article and know how to treat an escart right. You can be some woman’s first time escort experience – and because you read this – you know just exactly what to do to be everything she dreamed was possible.
Preparing to Meet your Escort
Escorts are women and they like to be treated like women. They don’t like being treated like low life whores. The happier you make them, the happier they make you. I have found that escorts are some of the finest and most interesting women you’ll ever meet and it’s a real treat to get to know them. I recommend that you prepare for your escort’s arrival the same way you would for a date. After all, escorts offer more than just sex. Often you can get good conversation and personal companionship as well. And you get these other services by being as nice to them as to any other woman you date. These escorts are, after all, women and they like all the things that any other woman would like. And it’s a good way to keep in practice in getting ready for other dates.
Prepare for an escort the same way you would prepare to meet a special date. Treat her like a queen and she’ll treat you like a king.
So, clean up the house, make the bed, spray some scented air freshener, take a bath, brush your teeth, and trim your fingernails. Put on some music if that’s what you’re into, or a tasteful X-rated video that appeals to women. Candle light is a nice touch. You want to create a romantic environment so that she knows you’re a gentleman and a sophisticated lover. Even though she’s a pro, all women like to be romanced. And if she’s having a good time, you’re going to have a good time.
Make sure you turn the porch light on so that she can find the house. You don’t want her to waste a lot of time locating the place. Be sure to put your valuables away. Don’t leave your wallet out on the table, because there’s no point in putting a stranger in a situation that tests her honesty. But do have the fee and the tip out and laying on the table when she arrives.
If the escort is more than half an hour late, call the agency to check on her status. They might say that she’s on her way and tell you when she will get there, but sometimes they will have to page her again. Many times agencies promise that the escort will arrive at a time that isn’t realistic. Sometimes the escort just doesn’t call in and they have to get someone else. I get really frustrated when an agency fails to deliver, but sometimes you have to stay on them to get someone to actually show up. You might have to try several services before you find one that is consistently reliable.
The Escort Arrives
When the escort arrives, treat her like a blind date. Tell her she looks nice. Smile, be friendly. Invite her in. I generally keep a variety of refreshments to offer her, like wine, soft drinks, fruit juice. If you smoke you can let her know she can smoke. If you don’t, then let her know she can’t.
If this is your first time with her, she will probably go into a script. She needs to know you’re not a cop or a violent weirdo or someone who’s going to be trouble. She also needs to let you know that she’s expecting you to pay up front, but she can’t ask you to give her money for sex, because that would be prostitution, and that’s not what she does.
Generally the woman will start out asking something neutral like, “Have you used the service before?” She trying to determine what you know and what she’s going to have to tell you about. If you’ve used other services before then let her know that so she knows that you understand the rules.
If you don’t know what to do and it’s your first time, just say so. That way she can give you the information you need. If you’re embarrassed or nervous, let her know it’s your first time and that you feel a little awkward. This helps her to help you relax, talk a little more, and allow you to get comfortable. Everyone has a first time for calling an escort service and part of the escort’s job is to let you know how to do it.
She will then explain the rules about the agency fee and the tips, tell you that you are expected to pay up front and what the time limits are. She will explain that there are different tips for different services. Eventually she will ask you, “What do you want to do?” When she asks you this, you are expected to tell her what you want. This is usually an awkward moment if it’s your first time. What you want to get across is whether you want to get laid, just want head, or both. And you can just say it if you want, and that’s fine. These women aren’t shy and you can be comfortable talking to them about your sexual interests. That is what they are there for and they aren’t bashful.
It’s just my personality, but I like to start with some humor to break the ice. I may ask, “How much would you charge to have my baby?” This usually gets them laughing — and some find it erotic. They’ll usually say something like, “I don’t do that,” or, “You couldn’t afford it,” to which I might reply, “Well, then, how much for an attempt?” This is a good way to lighten up the mood.
Many women are escorts because they like their job. The more comfortable they feel around you, the more they can enjoy their work.
As I said before, I personally like women who like their work. I like women to enjoy having sex with me. If that’s what you want, then you think like I do. They are trying to give you the pleasures you want, so the more accurately you communicate with them, the easier it is for them to satisfy you as a customer. And like any business women, these women enjoy working with their better clients.
After you let her know what you want it’s time to give her the money. She’ll let you know what she expects and how to pay her. The best way is to lay it on a table and have her pick it up rather than handing it to her. It’s a legal thing: You’re not really giving her thee money for sex. You’re paying her for her time and tipping her because she is a beautiful and attractive woman. And this beautiful woman finds you irresistible as well and you are so attractive that even though she shouldn’t, she just can’t control her desires and can’t resist having sex with you. You get the picture …
After she’s been paid, she will usually have to call the agency and let them know she has arrived, been paid, and that everything is fine so they can start the clock running. (When your time is up, the agency will call you back if she hasn’t called in first.) After she gets off the phone, she’s all yours.
This is the time to start getting relaxed with the escort, time for a little small talk. She may ask what you do; you might ask how long she’s been working in this field and what she likes. If you’re having personal problems, you might want to talk to her about them. I find it’s easier to talk to an escort than a psychologist and the advice is just as good. Escorts are an anonymous person, who is a woman, and you can ask her anything about women that you would be afraid to ask other women you know. Most escorts love to answer these questions and they are glad to fill you in on the secrets that hardly any guys know about what women really want. In fact, although most men think they know women, they really don’t. According to many escorts I’ve talked to, the average guy doesn’t have a clue about what women want. If you ask a few questions you might find that you can learn a lot of things you didn’t know.
Don’t Get Ripped Off
I have never been ripped off – but I have had people write me who have been scammed. As with anything – you need to be street smart. You want to be careful in selecting an escort that the person you are dealing with will act in a professional manner.
Generally you pay up front shortly after meeting – although there are escorts who ask for the money afterwards. But – she should not get the money and then need to leave the room to get something. One thing that can happen is that she gets paid – then says she forgot the condoms in her car – and then drives away. This can happen to you and there’s not a lot you can do about it – but you should ask her to leave the money if she needs to go out of the room.
Doing the Deed
At some point she will ask you if you want to “get comfortable.” This means “are you ready to have sex?” Your job now is to lead her to the bedroom and get naked. To protect herself legally, she will wait until the client is naked before she undresses. I suppose the legal idea here is that you’ve paid for a massage, but when she sees your irresistible naked body, she can no longer control herself and has to fuck you.
Relax and enjoy it. She a pro and you’re the client. This isn’t a woman you have to impress. She’s been with a lot of other men who are a lot better looking than you, and a lot worse looking than you. As far as comparing yourself to other clients, if you are clean, sober, and nice to her, and made her laugh, you’re already in the top 10% of all clients and you’re doing just fine.
If you’re nervous, you might start out with a back rub to get used to touching each other. Take your time. If this is your first time and you’re uncomfortable, you might want to agree up front that you may need extra time and work out an extra tip and agency fee so that you can take longer if necessary. That way you don’t have to rush things.
During foreplay, touch her softly like you would do with any other lover. Be romantic. Even though she is a pro, she is also a woman and her body responds like any woman’s. If you know what you’re doing, she is going to have a very good time too. Women enjoy sex and if the situations is right, they like to get their rocks off, just like you.
You want to be sensitive to what she wants. Some women don’t like you to put your finger in them. Others just love it. If she says don’t do something, don’t do it. Most escorts don’t do anal sex, so if that’s what you want, you should say so when you call and get an escort that will do it. Also, kissing on the mouth is generally a no-no, so don’t even try without asking first.
A condom is required. Don’t ask if you can skip it because VD is real and the woman doesn’t want to get it, or give it to you. However, many women don’t buy the best condoms, so if you have a brand you like, buy your own and offer to use your condoms. It will save her from having to use one of hers. It will also avoid an awkward delay if she forgets to bring one and would otherwise have to leave and run to the store to get one. This actually happens more often than it should.
I always keep a tube of KY Jelly by the bed. Lubrication is good. She may be wet enough already, but often she won’t be. There are several reasons that a woman may not get wet, even when she’s hot. These include where she is in her monthly cycle, if she’s just douched, her mood, how many other guys she’s done today, if her rent’s paid, or what medication she’s on (nasal decongestants will dry up more than her nose). So after putting the condom on, grease it up good.
Being clean is a big turn on for escorts. Women like guys when they just got out of the shower. All women like candle light. Escorts are no exception.
Although the escort is supposed to bring these supplies it’s a good idea that you have your own. I’ve had several escorts show up and forget to bring things so don’t count on them having their act together. Besides, you may prefer a better brand of condom than they have. I personally like Lifestyle Ultra Thin Lubricated condoms. I don’t get the ones with Nonoxidol 9 because I’ve had several escorts mention they have a bad reaction to it. I also keep a supply of tampons and douche. Also have clean washcloths and towels in the bathroom so you both can clean up afterwards.
Having Good Sex (Coming Soon)
Afterwards…
After it’s over, it’s time to clean up and say good night. It’s nice to have a towel next to the bed to wipe up. If you really want to impress a pro, have a pan of warm water with a warm wash cloth by the bed. After sex, reach down and get it, ring it out, and hand it to her. Nothing feels better than a nice warm wash cloth. Otherwise, have some wash cloths in your bathroom for her to clean up. I keep an open box of tampons on the sink for guests to use. Just having these basic supplies available will impress most escorts. It doesn’t take much to be a considerate client.
After she cleans up, she will need to call the agency and let them know she is done and is okay. Once she’s made the call, you say goodbye and tell her that you had a nice time. If she likes you, you’ll get a hug and maybe a kiss. Look around and make sure she has everything. Some women are bad about forgetting things like their pagers or articles of clothing. If she’s had a good time she’s more likely to leave things behind.
Becoming a “Regular”
If you find an escort you like and you see her many times, the sex usually gets better. You get to know each other better and know what each other likes. Like any relationship, the more time you spend together the better you get at it.
After a few sessions with the same person you become what is called a “regular”. Escorts prefer to see regulars because they know what to expect, know your not a cop, and know you’re not a trouble maker. One way you can tell if your escort considers you a regular is when you pay. If she let’s you pay afterwards, you’re a regular.
Relationships with escorts can last for decades and a regular relationship can be fulfilling on many levels other than just sex.
Becoming a regular is like having a surrogate relationship. It’s not the same as being married and living happily ever after. However, it’s a lot better than being alone. There are a lot of people in the world that traditional marriage isn’t something that’s going to work. The idea that “there’s someone for everyone” is a myth. If you find that someone and you have a golden anniversary, that’s just great. But for most of us, that just isn’t going to happen. And you can make yourself miserable waiting for it.
I personally like having several limited but yet still very personal relationships with several women. I have a lot of women friends and a variety of lovers and it works for me. It make not be ideal, by we don’t live in an ideal world. I think I’m doing as well as I can under the circumstances. I’m happy with it and it works for me.
Since women move from service to service and in and out of the business I like to develop a regular relationship with several escorts. This way if your favorite is on the rag, in a bad mood, out of town, or quits, you have other choices to fall back on. Sometimes your just in the mood for someone different. If I find an escort I really like I generally give her my card and tell her if she changes employers to call me and let me know who she’s working for. I’ve also had women who got out of the business but still keep me as their only client. And part of the reason for that is that I gave them my phone number.
If at first you don’t succeed..